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How to Write About Love: inktips from Author Eric Luper

Posted by inkpopbecki on June 9, 2010

Eric Luper knows a lot about love. Just check out his book Seth Baumgartner’s Love Manifesto if you don’t believe me. So we asked him to give us a few tips on love. Check out his tips below or join us in the forums at 5 p.m. EST today to talk with Eric live online about how to write love and relationships.

A Guy’s Perspective on Love

Love is one of those things that people talk about, but does anyone really understand it? So far, scientists have identified eleven distinct types of love and each one affects our brains differently. I thought this would be a fascinating topic to tackle in my novel and the more I learned about it, the more I realized I’d only be able to scratch the surface.
Whether you are writing from a guy’s perspective, have a female protagonist who has a thing for a guy or if you have a crush on a guy in your math class, here are some tips to help you understand what is going on in a guy’s brain:

1.      When you are writing, feel with your heart and write from your brain: We all know the feelings associated with love: racing heart, flushed face, elation, etc. but most guys don’t express themselves in those terms… and they certainly don’t discuss them with their friends. A guy feels emotion, but then typically acts on it rather than dwelling on it.
2.      When guys are infatuated they will talk about a girl like she’s his favorite sandwich: Have you ever heard a guy describe his favorite sandwich? He’ll hold out his hands like he’s actually holding the thing, he’ll describe each layer as though it can hear him. And that first bite… Ooh, my heart is all aflutter! When a guy stops talking like that about his infatuation, something has changed: either for the better or the worse.
3.      When a guy falls in love, he’ll stop talking about it: To swipe a line from SETH BAUMGARTNER’S LOVE MANIFESTO, “guys are stoic; it’s a Mars-Venus thing.” It’s understood that guys are not supposed to discuss matters of love. Lust is okay; Love, not so much. Sad but true.
4.      Points 2 and 3 are generalizations. Of course, no two people are the same and guys come in all types. We all express ourselves differently. Just remember, if a guy internalizes too much about love in your story, he’ll come across as “emo.” That’s not necessarily a bad thing. Just be aware of what you’re doing.
5.      For both guys and girls, the feelings are the same; it’s how we express ourselves that differs. Whether you write from the point of view of a guy in love or just need to understand the goings-on

inside the mysterious male brain, just remember to stay true to those feelings and have them come out in ways appropriate for that particular guy.

In the immortal words of Seth in his Love Manifesto, “You can’t dissect love, you can’t explain it, because once you do you prevent yourself from being able to experience it. You pull yourself out of the enjoyment of it, the excitement of it, the meaning, no… the importance of it. And that’s what it’s all about, isn’t it? Love is important.”

Check out Eric Luper’s live chat today at 5 p.m. EST and ask him everything you ever wanted to know about love!

3 Responses to “How to Write About Love: inktips from Author Eric Luper”

  1. Nella said

    excellent book tips, I would like to read buy the book now 😀

    It sounds awesome!

  2. Laura said

    Great inktips! I can’t wait to read it.

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